It annoys me when people say looks don’t matter. Come on. Who are you trying to fool? Admit it. The first thing that you see in a person is how he or she looks. As my friend bluntly put it, “Nobody can tell if you’re nice or smart just by looking at you”. A troll might be the nicest, kindest and best thing that will ever happen to you, but before you get to know all this, you see what’s in front of you: a troll.
On estimation, 98% of the people I ask tell me that looks don’t matter and that it’s what’s inside that count. Only a handful admitted that when it comes to choosing someone, they of course consider looks. This is just my opinion but it kind of makes 98% of the people I know hypocrites when it comes to that particular question.
Generally, if looks don’t matter, then why are movie stars some of the highest paid people in the world? Yes, I don’t rule out the fact that acting, no matter how easy it looks, is a pretty difficult job but you have to acknowledge that they get paid a lot to endorse products because of the way they look. The way they LOOK is basically the reason they are labelled “stars” and paid so much money and supported by legions of fans.
In the love department, unless you fall in love with a phonepal or penpal which rarely happens, the first thing you see in a person is the way they look. The operative verb being SEE. Some people say that they don’t really look but that’s a lot of bull. Most people when asked why they fell in love with their partner answer that it’s because of their soulful eyes or disarming smile, which is still of course part of the persons look.
While looks, of course, aren’t the entire basis for one to pick a person to have a relationship with, you have to admit that it is part of the reason why you fall for someone. Eventually, a person’s personality shines through when you get closer and know one another better and better but initially, how they look plays a big factor on why you liked them in the first place.
But that’s not the main reason why it annoys me. I have a lot of friends who say that looks don’t matter but experience heartbreak because they choose the good looking ones who catch them off guard because of the killer combination of looks plus charm. Then they come running and crying about it when it doesn’t work out. While I sympathize with them and generally feel sorry for them and their situation, I can’t help but think at the back of my head how hypocritical they are saying those things about looks don’t matter and it takes some effort not to tell them that this is them eating their own words. It may seem heartless in a way but I would have been much more understanding if they told me that they also had considered looks instead of telling me that looking at someone’s outer appearance is superficial.
Personally, I choose people I like 80% on personality and 20% on looks. Now I know that I’m not the most good looking person out there but that doesn’t mean that I can’t choose the cute, smart and interesting person who’s foolish enough to fall for me can I?